I Shared a Room With Two Girls (Here’s What Happened)
It’s not what you think.
You might wonder — How did this lucky bastard manage that?
I did indeed share a room with two girls for about a week.
It happened a few years back. Myself and a few girls were sent for a month-long training organized by the company that hired us. I was the only guy in the group.
The fact of the matter is that there was an error in the reservation for the hotel. The hotel did not have at that time a single room for me and a double for the girls. So we had to share a room of three. A double bed for them and a single bed next to theirs for me. Now that I got this out of the way. What did it feel like and how was it?
First, it depends a lot on how you decide to view it. Sure from one angle, it was awkward considering girls have their stuff to do. I was in this sense a disturbance. I am sure they had to filter a lot of actions to ‘behave’ in front of me. I wasn’t their boyfriend for them to feel completely OK with going to bed partially dressed or act naturally. Nor were we that close.
On the other hand, I got to spend a lot of time with them. We connected right off the bat and bonded very well. We shared some great memories roaming the streets of Budapest. Dining. Drinking. Going shopping and talking about all sorts of topics.
To this day I remember that first day and how we dropped our bags in that 3-star hotel. We were really hungry so we decided to head into the city and find a place to eat. Everything was closed and luckily for us, we noticed a supermarket that was still open. I was crying from laughter as we walked the aisles of the supermarket and thought of what our dinner would comprise. We ended up with a loaf of bread. Tomatoes. Sausages. Juice. To cut everything we got some plastic knives and forks and some plates. That was some high-quality meal right there.
Bathroom time
Let’s consider the use of the bathroom in the evening. Girls need a lot of time in there, from what I’ve gathered it takes in the vicinity of an hour. As for me, I needed less than half of that to get ready. On the other side, there were constant requests for me to leave the room when they were done with showering to change. When I’d take a shower I changed in the bathroom in my normal clothes and there was no need for them to leave the room.
You know when going to the beach it is perfectly normal for women and men to show skin considering hundreds more are. Back to society in a different environment that becomes a taboo.
Having to leave the room for them was a bit annoying not going to lie, but I complied.
Mornings were a breeze for me for I could get an extra half an hour of sleep in. While I heard them rummaging around the room and getting ready.
My morning routine took 15 minutes overall with me getting dressed. The girls had to arrange their hair, do their makeup, wash, dress. Let me tell you I was amazed at how much time they need all things considered. Also, I need to mention that I was lucky that I did not witness the shower to have the drain full of hair. My only guess is they took upon themselves to keep it clean after themselves. That was a relief.
Girls Discuss Girls
Some people love to talk. The girls in this case would talk about whatever crossed their mind. Unfiltered.
There was a lot of chit-chat about trivialities. I mean maybe it was of importance to them, as for me, some of the topics were blatantly uninteresting. Handy were my headphones for cases like that.
They sure do notice if another girl gets the looks from other men.
Again there is comparison involved. A girl will be aware of where she stands on the scale relative to other females in a group.
I also noticed that average looking girls have high expectations from guys. Somehow they feel entitled to get a perfect guy when they themselves are far from perfect.
Looks
Girls are OBSESSED with how they look. Very understandable, seeing that’s what they have to trade and work with to find a mate. Thus they spend a lot of time in front of the mirror, checking themselves out from different angles.
There would also be moments where they would complain about things. Something is not right? They have to dwell on that and make themselves feel even worse. They can’t drop a topic that makes them feel miserable. They dwell on it and give too many fucks about things out of their control. It felt like a childish behavior they relished.
I managed to learn a few insights from them regarding guys. I must say these girls share traditional views of a woman’s role.
Girls are not that innocent as they might look at first. Granted, the same can apply for guys.
Expectation from Guys
Girls don’t want the guy to make less money than the girl. In their opinion, a guy’s ego and masculinity are affected if a girl earns more than her boyfriend.
But they do think that a girl and a guy should share their resources and work together on a common goal. Thus, I don’t see how the earning part is of any issue if they both are a team striving to build something together.
Guys should take the lead and not beat around the bush. These girls appreciated a guy being direct about their intentions. I for one agree with this and think it’s best to share your intentions upfront with a girl.
If she agrees — great! If she does not you can then go on with your life.
Besides character and finances, it matters how one takes care of his appearance.
Looks Matter To a Degree
I would constantly hear remarks about how good that cashier looked or that guy that just passed by them. So guys do know that girls constantly check you out just like you check them out, it goes both ways.
They want a guy that has a nice personality (charismatic), can make them laugh, and shares the same values.
It’s also a bonus if he looks good and is financially well off.
Although they also said that to some girls the finance part is very important, for them it’s not a definite standard if she will stay with the guy or not.
So although they prefer the guy to have money, it’s also fine if he’s not a big shot. As long as he satisfies the previous requirements (looks+personality) and works on his purpose.
I mean it makes sense — they want by their side a man that can take the lead in a relationship and is committed to his purpose.
Final Thoughts
Truth is, men are attracted to women first visually. So are women to men. That is the first point of contact, later on, other things catch our eyes about the other person. This explains in part this obsession with looks and selfies and Instagram and social proof, a need for validation of their beauty.
Girls dress in specific ways, walk a specific way to attract male’s attention. It is obvious they will receive that attention, and yet they feel they are being treated as objects. They crave genuine appreciation for who they are and not for their body. They don’t want to be viewed as a transaction but as human beings, with more to offer than sexual fulfillment.
Yet they showcase their body more than anything and put this very same body on a pedestal. Men love with their eyes and they want a woman to look attractive and have a decent personality. Females want that sense of financial security as well which is totally justifiable considering the society they were brought up in, that’s the values society/media instilled in them.
In the end, both parties came to the conclusion that it’s hard to come upon the right person.
